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Aborted Reasoning

Nov
7
2005

Californians vote Tuesday on the “Ground Your Slutty Daughter Proposition.”
That’s Prop 73, which would require doctors to notify parents if their daughters are seeking an abortion. In other words, a girl has sex, something teenagers do do, no matter how much we don’t want to acknowledge it. Then she stresses because her period’s late, she figures out she’s pregnant, she decides what to do, she gets money to pay for an abortion, she finds a doctor, all this while hiding from her parents the practically constant text messages and phone calls to friends about it. Why? Because, surprise, not all teenagers see their parents as a hip Ward and June.
But there’s no home-free spot. Because out goes the letter to mom and dad, and you’re busted, honey. Any punishment serves you right, and don’t come whining about the condom breaking.
The law would allow judges to grant an exemption to the notification requirement if a girl can show she’s mature enough to make her own decision, assuming that the judge isn’t opposed to all abortions or to sweet little girls going behind their parents’ backs. But if the girl has managed to take responsibility for the whole difficult process of trying to arrange an abortion, then I say she’s demonstrated enough mature judgment. After all, there are truly wrong ways to deal with an unwanted pregnancy.
Girls can also get a court exemption if they can show that notification isn’t in their best interests–if they’re from abusive homes, possibly incest victims or facing getting kicked out if their parents find out about the pregnancy. So the girls who need the most extra help at a difficult time instead get an extra hurdle.
Still, it’s not concern or lack of it for abused kids that will tip the balance in Tuesday’s vote.
The proposition is backed by groups opposed to abortion rights, while most Californians continue to support the right to abortion, according to an L.A. Times poll published Thursday. That poll also showed support for the proposal running 12 points ahead of the “no” vote, with 10 percent undecided. (A separate poll released Wednesday showed the “no” vote climbing ahead by 8 points, also with 10 percent undecided.)
A victory could come if the relatively little-publicized proposition, which defines abortion as causing “death of the unborn child,” mobilizes supporters to go vote in greater numbers than opponents are drawn out.
Men, conservatives and the religious tend to vote yes, as you might expect. But a winning margin would have to include some supporters of abortion rights giving in to a knee-jerk reaction (more colorfully articulated elsewhere by Gov. Schwarzenegger): if it were my daughter I’d want to know.
Of course you would. Me too, if I had a daughter. Of course I happen to only have sons, but I’d like to know if one of their girlfriends, when they’re old enough to have them, has an abortion. Can someone legislate that? How about making cellulite be considered sexy?
If your daughter didn’t tell you about the abortion, a law’s not going to make her. Girls with money will spend a “long weekend at their best friend’s house” while they travel to another state. And girls without money will have to evaluate the increased difficulties in getting an abortion and decide to forgo having sex because a rational risk/reward analysis shows it’s just not worth it. Right? That would be tough enough for a 25-year-old, let alone a 15-year-old.
If anyone’s really interested in improving family communication, why not provide subsidies for families with kids and mandate flexible work leave, so parents can spend more time with their children and get a chance to have conversations not triggered by legislation.
That’s a proposition I’d vote for.

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